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From The Desk of a Single Mom: Hello Somebody; Where Is Your Yes?

For so many years society and the people within; have told us and taught us that it’s time to say NO.

And for most circumstances that still applies; but, what happens when God needs you to say YES?

Now, being a single mom I’ve had my share of taking great joy in exercising my right to say NO; loud and boldly. Especially when situations don’t look like it’s going to be good for me and my kids.

When some no-good dude wants to roll up and think he going to get over on me; nope! He can be smooth as silk with his no good intentions but when you’ve been played before; you cut them short; NO and go on about your business….

Or, when a potential employer calls you after reviewing your resume and tries to offer you less than you’re worth; NO. Why do they do that? They clearly see your experience and education but still offer you less than; “excuse me I don’t want to appear rude but, NO thank you!”

And they get upset like you got a problem….Well you kinda do because you know you’re worth! Why do them the favor of taking their low paying job and “you” have to find other ways to make ends meet?

What about when you’re trying to flex your entrepreneurial muscles and start getting the word out; you get all kinds of people interested in your services. But, guess what? They don’t want to pay for nothing! Who does that? Volunteer and Entrepreneur are no where the same! Their meanings are entirely different! So you know what; NO.


Just like we have the ability to say NO; so does God. I’m sure some of you know that; right? You want something or someone so bad and you pray about it and God says NO.. Hurt your feelings right? Lol I know I’ve been there; many times and each time it hurt. Like when can I get a Yes Heavenly Father? I know you want the best for me but when can I see it up close and personal?

I thought I had an absolute yes just a little while ago; things start looking up. I got a job with this company started as a temp it wasn’t perfect but I was able to deal with it. I began to make plans along with my kids to start looking for a house; we had grown tired of apartment living (it was definitely time for an upgrade).

There were talks of the company I was working for to bring me on permanent but they were dragging their feet; so I really didn’t have that as a factor while looking for a place to call home.

Some people do that; they choose a place to live depending on where their working. Many jobs aren’t that loyal anymore and I wasn’t going to make a long term decision not fully knowing if they would even bring me on permanent and keep me!

So long story short they eventually brought me on and we ended up finding a house really far from where I worked. Lol like my commute depending on traffic was 1.5-2 hours; each way! At first it didn’t bother me I enjoyed the time to get to pray and talk to God and just clear my head. But after a month or so I knew I had to figure something out and I prayed….


July 2018 God answered!

What if God answered your prayer(s) but you didn’t have the whole picture of how it was to go down? You weren’t given a play by play? All you got was your part that you had to play; would you say YES?

I said Yes! I gave my 2 weeks notice without another job anywhere in sight! I flexed my FAITH muscles; was it easy? No! But, I had to trust and believe that God would show up and show out!

And guess what God made a way! Often times God wants to know if YOU will trust and believe in HIM. When things are going good we sometimes forget WHO makes a way for us to have everything that we have.

Soon as the times get rough we get all afraid and pointing fingers. I had to pray my way through so I didn’t fall into that trap; the enemy is always close by to see how he can get you hemmed up.

November 2018: God Showed Out…

And while I was praying for a temporary job that I had interviewed for would come through; God sent a full-time permanent job my way that I believed was one of the worst and strangest interviews I have ever had!

When you give God control and give HIM your YES…..#speechless

Will you tell Him yes?


Written and published by Tamara McCarthy

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I wear many hats! I am a Kingdom Gal! I am a Jesus Chic! I am an Author, Writer, Motivator, Single Mom and Certified Life and Empowerment Coach! I am earning my Phd in Christian Counseling; so that I can continue my passion and purpose to inspire, motivate, empower and encourage young ladies and women to live a better life!

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